On this day exactly 20 years ago, this happened:
And 21 years ago, almost on this exact day, the events that set this all in motion happened. Unfortunately there aren’t any pictures of that moment – which seems sort of unfair as because of a chance meeting at a friend’s house, I got a wonderful wife, two amazing kids, and an incredibly rich life. That was a pretty good day.
I could go on and on about how the orbit of my life was moved by Katherine into something both more balanced and more exciting. I could go into detail how, in the words of a favorite aunt, marrying Katherine ensured that I “wasn’t such a little shit anymore.” (and she was completely right – notice she didn’t say I wasn’t a little shit anymore, just that I wasn’t quite as much of one. *grin*)
Or I could go on about our incredible kids. Or about how we still stay up far past the time we should have gone to sleep because we still just love talking to each other. Or even about how the troubles we have run into have been made less by the fact that we faced them together.
All of that would be true, but it wouldn’t begin to convey even the smallest portion of why I continue, every single day of my life, to be happy I married this woman…or happy that she still finds joy in being with me. When we started out, we were by all accounts too young, too poor, and too unready to have started down this path. Ninety-nine percent of the time, that would have probably been right, and there is no doubt that some amount of luck played into this, but the last two decades have been an incredible journey and I can’t imagine having made it with anyone else.
Now since we don’t have pictures of our first meeting 21 years ago, I’m now going to have to make do with pictures from that other event that happened a year later. 🙂
To all of the friends and family that were there, thank you for seeing us off on this adventure so ably. To all the friends and family that weren’t there or that we’ve met since then, thank you for continuing to help ease us on our way.
And most of all, I want to thank you Katherine. Thank you for being my partner in the truest sense of the word. Thank you for bringing so much magic into my life. Thank you for being my best friend. Thank you for bringing out the best in me and sticking by me when I am at my worst.Thank you for our children, and for working with me to raise them to embody the best of both of us and when that’s not an option, teaching them to find their own way. And with all my heart, thank you for believing in me so strongly that I had no choice but to believe in myself.
The past two decades have seemed to pass in an instant, and my thoughts now are the same as they were the first day we met and on the day we got married: I can’t wait to find out what happens next.